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- Dear Ibby, Every time my girlfriend gets drunk, she becomes verbally abusive. What should I do?
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Dear Ibby, Every time my girlfriend gets drunk, she becomes verbally abusive. What should I do?
When you have an alcoholic friend or family member blaming you, it can be very difficult to know what to do. You might feel angry, frustrated, and even scared. Even with all of your help and support, the alcoholic may still blame you. Thankfully, our many years of experience with alcoholics and their close relationships have taught us what to do when an alcoholic blames you for their problems.
We have compiled a few steps that we believe are helpful when dealing with this situation. With these steps, the goal is to diffuse the situation, to let the alcoholic know you are there for them, and to keep yourself safe and sane throughout the process.
If you find yourself in a situation where an alcoholic is blaming you, remember that you are not to blame. The disease is to blame.
Create empathy with the alcoholic and protect yourself and your feelings. Your feelings are valid and dealing with an active alcoholic can be a painful one.
Seek more support and education through meetings and groups. And always stay safe. If the alcoholic becomes violent, remove yourself from the situation, find a safe place to stay, and contact the appropriate authorities for help. The best thing you can do for the alcoholic is to receive the support you need to deal with the situation in a sane and healthy way.
Susan, many people enter into counseling to get the support they need when an alcoholic is in their lives. Yes me too. I was naive and believed if we get him away from all these substances he will be himself again. Me too. My wife is a functional alcoholic. She treats my kids a I like we are the root of her mystery. He has been drinking for the last My husband is a recreational alcoholic that blames his drinking on me!!
Forget the fact that he was drinking before we got married. Had I known it would be like this, I would of stayed single!! But I took my vows seriously so im trying. I have started to become turned off by everything he does!! My wife is an alcoholic. She was sluring her words, insulting and yelling at me. So I got dressed, went downstairs, found everything put away like I knew it was, then went back upstairs to find the door locked and her yelling how terrible I was.
Her daughter is a spoiled mess; a teenager with no chores, who lies constantly, and is manipulative. He tells me that I stress him out and that is why he drinks. If I want him to stop drinking i need to change my ways. If I want him to stop drinking i need to change my ways the worst part is we are having our 1st child together. My alcoholic fiance has asked me to move out after living together for 1. She is blaming me and it kills me because i have been killing myself around the house,laundry,cooking and cleaning the house.
Now, last night,she asked me to be intimate with her. So we did it and the next day she could not remember we did it and apologized for leading me on. I am shattered and broken. Please pray for me. I was naive and beloved if we get him away from all these substances he will be himself again.
My Girlfriend is a high functioning alcolholic. She cannot see the Truth of the situation. I gave up my Assistant Job so her son could take my place. I ended up taking a job about 4. Basically laid down my job for her boy. The thing is with people bound in alcohol. You try to get close to them and they push you away because the alcohol comes first. King of at my witts end and kind of perplexed.
So wrong! He is suck as I have become just as sick but the difference is I want better for my life than this bleek exsistance. I have to leave and it hurts beyond belief. I am kind of ashamed to write about my experience. I have been married to my husband for almost 28 yrs. I thought I could handle it. Now as I enter a different time in my life, I am depressed.
I am lonely and I fake happiness at work, with some of my family and just in general. I sometimes do not have the ability to pretend. Thanks for listening. Me to. Make your decision never allow the person to destroy your life. Stand by your decision and keep going forward. You will have well being, peace of mind and be fine. Have your own awesome LIFE. I literally have the same story. Hope you find peace in your journey. The image of my perfect marriage is shattered.
Bryan when he drinks becomes like a demon and is extremely verbally abusive. This the 2nd time it happened this time at the river rafting. He drinks too much and changes into this demon. No excuse. Last words spoken. I left this morning he is at my home apparently sober and quiet. He can go fuck himself. As you can see I get very angry when abused. I did nothing wrong. I do not know when I will speak to him. I cried a little but sucked it up because he is he one hat has the problem not me.
And the things that are said omg I googled men that are abusive when they drink and all the stories sound Exactly like mine.
It I do know this. Very very very hurtful. I also think that people should be held accountable for their actions and make things right and not continue to commit the same bullshit over and over.
I Feel so angry and offended I want to hurt him back however I can and my feelings are turning into resentment. I have been married to an alcoholic for 28 years. It has been hell. He is verbally abusive to me and the kids.
My children are 25 and 23 and have endured this their entire lives. My son left for college, graduated and moved out. My daughter is almost done with school. My husband is angry and blames everyone else.
He was caught driving drunk, lost his commercial driver license, he will have to do a few days in jail, spent over 10k for a lawyer.
I can go on and on. Just the other day was the final straw. The kids came home to celebrate my birthday. What a disaster. I have been called every name under the sun, insulted, just verbally abused. He apologized which was a first, admitted that he was wrong and that he wants to stop drinking. Do I go along with it or move on?
I had told him I wanted a divorce and he can go his and I go mine. This has been going on for years!
Subscribe To Friends and Family of Alcoholics. Hi all, I just discovered this forum about 1 hour ago while I was looking for advice on my situation. I must say this forum looks great, many posters with lots of experience, so I figured I'd post my situation here: My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and are in our mid-twenties. We both have jobs and have gone through "College life" where drinking is a daily activity We are both, today, "normal" or casual drinkers, we don't need to drink everyday and we don't , we have some wine with dinner from time to time, and go out sometimes on weekends.
We love each other deeply and generally communicate well, but one issue that has come up repeatedly is alcohol consumption. Many of the day-to-day social events we participate in involve casual drinking. She is really resistant to any specific techniques to keep drinking in check — for example, she bristles at the idea of being asked to count her drinks. It seems like everything out there is centered around a dichotomy of alcoholism vs. Not here, not for you two — because you think your girlfriend drinks too much and she has no interest in drinking less.
Help an Alcoholic Girlfriend
When you have an alcoholic friend or family member blaming you, it can be very difficult to know what to do. You might feel angry, frustrated, and even scared. Even with all of your help and support, the alcoholic may still blame you. Thankfully, our many years of experience with alcoholics and their close relationships have taught us what to do when an alcoholic blames you for their problems. We have compiled a few steps that we believe are helpful when dealing with this situation. With these steps, the goal is to diffuse the situation, to let the alcoholic know you are there for them, and to keep yourself safe and sane throughout the process. If you find yourself in a situation where an alcoholic is blaming you, remember that you are not to blame. The disease is to blame.
When Your Partner Gets Drunk and Violent
Many women and men are going through the same struggle. Research across different countries and cultures has demonstrated a strong relationship between binge drinking and violence towards intimate partners, whether they are married, cohabiting, dating, or casual encounters, and whether the partners are heterosexual, gay, lesbian, or bisexual. As with all people with violent partners, you are not to blame for what's happening to you, but you're unlikely to get help unless you take action yourself to prevent further abuse. Only you can decide what to do in this situation, but you are strongly advised to seek professional help as soon as possible.
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What To Do When An Alcoholic Blames You
Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community. It must be awful to only get 4 hours of sleep a night, I definitely couldn't survive on that, but the concerns are as I see it, is that you have no money left, your cards that are maxed out and she doesn't want to get any help, but after drinking all that alcohol she wouldn't have any memory of what was said the night before. No one wins an argument when they have been drinking and no one remembers what they said or what the outcome was, so when she decides to drink then you can go your own way or vice-versa, it's not that you're leaving her it's just when she drinks because you being drawn into the alcohol debate, probably not about anything serious, but when intoxicated it becomes serious.
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Drinking with your partner could mean an evening in with a takeaway and the telly, or a night out at a nice restaurant. Drink too much however, and you could find your night ruined by an argument that neither of you really want. Late-night disagreements may often be resolved in the morning, but they can grow into relationship-threatening resentments. Alcohol works on the brain to lower our inhibitions which may make you feel more confident and less anxious. But those lower inhibitions can also make you accidentally say or do something that you may come to regret.
my GF has drinking problem & serious mood swings - NEED ADVICE!!!
My guess is she's using drunkenness as an excuse to be a poop-head, and probably claims she "doesn't remember" what she said because she's too embarrassed to admit what she actually thinks about you and whoever else she's shit-talking. So, so many people use drunken blackouts as get-of-jail-free cards for shitty behavior, but alcohol is not an excusable reason to be a dick. Drunk people are the same people they are when they're sober, they're just lubricated.
How To Get Over THIS Common Relationship Bump
A couple walks into a bar. My girlfriend likes a glass of wine while cooking dinner together. Is she an alcoholic? I will admit right now I have a problem with alcohol.